There is a story about an arrogant professor who goes to a Zen master to learn about Zen. As he sits down, he proceeds to tell the master what he already knows and exactly what he thinks about the subject. The Zen master listens intently and offers tea to the man. He begins to pour the tea into the professor's cup and continues even as the tea overflows onto the table. The professor shouts, "Stop! My cup is already full!" The Master of Zen says, "Yes it is, and until you empty it, nothing else will go in."
We have all been on both sides of that table. Either, we aren't listening because we already think we know, or we have our own strong opinions and beliefs that prevent us from accepting another person's point of view. If we are on the other side of the table, as the Zen master realized, trying to communicate with a person whose cup is full can be a complete waste of breath.
Setting aside preconceived notions, opinions, ideas, beliefs, and judgements can be extremely difficult. Especially when the information that you are receiving is criticism. Being aware of your reactions to advice, criticism, or information from another will help you to see whether your cup is full or empty. Opening your mind to the idea that every interaction with another person has something to teach you, will allow you to really hear what another has to say instead of filtering their words through what you "already know".
Even the harshest criticism from another has something to teach you. Listening with an open mind or a cup that is empty might allow you to take the criticism in a more constructive way.
When you empty your cup, you can begin to feel freedom from your own ideas and opinions. This freedom will leave you open and ready to learn something new at every moment.
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