1/14/2014 6 Comments Breaking a habit.![]() Last week when I walked into my regular Wednesday morning yoga class, I realized that I no longer cared where I put my mat. After I sat down, I thought to myself, "Huh"...... a year ago, I would have had many more requirements before placing my mat just anywhere. If someone was in "my" spot, I would have purposefully scanned the room for a spot that was: a. in the front b. near a wall c. not near anyone that didn't appear calm and balanced d. not in a place that didn't feel right When I thought about it after class, I remembered that last year I had set a New Year's intention to change "my" spot each time I attended my Wednesday morning yoga class. I chose this because I realized that I had gotten so attached to my location in the room that I was creating suffering for myself. If I would walk into class and someone was in what I considered to be my spot, I would be left feeling out of sorts. I knew I was in trouble when I would start to worry that my spot wouldn't be there before I even got to the studio. With much effort and resolve, on January 1, 2013, I committed to choosing a different spot in class every Wednesday. It was difficult at first, I took baby steps, staying as close as I could to my old spot without actually being in it. As I sat in a new spot, I used a mantra to talk myself into being okay in this unfamiliar place. I had to work hard to remain focused, and take deep breaths to stay centered because my balance would sometimes feel off. Over time however, it became easier and easier to be in a new place in the classroom. Then at some point, without even realizing it, my habit and attachment to "my" spot was gone. Habits are formed when we repeat a pattern over and over again. Our physical, mental, and emotional bodies can form habits pretty easily. These pesky little habits can be very hard to get rid of. In yoga philosophy, a habit or repetitive pattern is called a samskara. Pantajali says that a samskara is like a grove in the sand. Each time the water flows there, the groove gets deeper. At some point, the groove gets so deep that the water has no choice but to flow right back into the groove. Like a groove in sand, each time we think, feel, or behave in a certain way, we create a pathway in our brain that makes it more likely that we will think, feel, or behave the same way again. With each repetition of the thought, feeling, or action, the pathway becomes stronger and deeper. Without a keen awareness of our mind state, our samskaras can run our lives making us think, feel, and react out of habit. Anger, sadness, judgement, and guilt are just a few habitual reactions that keep us stuck in a negative mind state. Because of this tendency to unconsciously repeat patterns, our emotional, physical, and mental samskaras require a conscious effort to change. Awareness. The first step is being aware of the habit. You know you have formed a habit when you feel like you have no choice in the way you think, feel, or behave in certain situations. Feel your emotions. Breaking your attachment involves feeling the discomfort and staying in it anyway. Breathe into the feelings as they arise and pass, then take a step back and wait before you choose your next action. Get support. Make a commitment to change and then enlist the support of others who care about you. Letting others know can hold you accountable for the change that you seek. Mantra. Use a mantra or a phrase that you repeat regularly to disconnect your habitual mind from the negative pattern and help to create a new and positive one. Breathe. Practice conscious breathing or meditation on a regular basis to strengthen your connection to yourself and weaken the mind's tendency to run wild. Practice yoga. Yoga, at it's core is about breaking up and purifying our samskaras in the body, mind, and heart so that we can live and enjoy life in the present moment.
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Monie
1/14/2014 01:07:24 am
I love your blog and look forward to it each week. Thank you for your words and thoughts.
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cara
1/14/2014 02:56:23 am
I am so happy that it helps you. Thank you for your support.
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Candace
1/14/2014 02:28:12 am
Love it love it love it..... Thanks
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cara
1/14/2014 02:57:07 am
Thank you thank you thank you...you are welcome
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Cara!!!! This is the sort of Darma talk I miss from Liz! I can guess that's still your Wed. class. Wish it were mine too! Can't seem to find enlightening, calm teachers here in LA...ironic huh? Can you send me the link to the blogpost you wrote about your Mom. I remember you mentioning it to me and I have never had the fortune of finding it on the list. Can't wait to read it, I know it will enlighten. Sending love to you & miss the days in Garrison and your smiling face! xoxo
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